Mallory Mayhem

Something I came across..love it

2010-03-31T09:29:00.000-07:00

I found this quote this morning by chance and loved it. I am posting it here so I don't forget it,and so when I print this blog as our family scrap book my children will understand that our love for them is deep and true and whether they are bios or adopted...our love and committment to ALL our kids is the same!

"Born not from our flesh, but born in our hearts, you were longed for and wanted and loved from the start"
Author: unknown

China 2010

2010-03-26T13:29:00.000-07:00

I can't believe this was only 2 and a half months ago.This is taken at a 2000 yr old temple in Nanjing, Jiangsu China. I love this picture because we had had her for 3 or 4 days and it was one of the first times she let me hold her without a major tiz waz! She turned a corner that day! Now....fastforward a couple months, she is my shadow 24 hrs a day! I am the lucky recipient of 1000 hugs and kisses a day from this child! How was I so lucky to be given this child??? Can't imagine the hole in our family....she truly was the missing piece of the puzzle!

Powerful...

2010-03-23T19:03:00.000-07:00

I came across this on our agency"s web site. I honestly forget half my kids were once motherless and truly orphans..once I get them home they are just one of my kids..plain and simple. Reading what this Orphanage worker had to say sent chills up my spine and brought me to tears. No words for how humbled I feel to have been a part of such a miracle...3 times!

Remember, this is the greatest thing that will ever happen in the life of this child. Tell her to go forth on behalf of all her sisters who will never have this chance and change the world."
Parting advice from a very wise and loving orphanage director, Mrs. Fenrong Chen (pictured at right).

Heather must be whispering in my ear today

2010-03-16T16:11:00.001-07:00

I was just peeking at some family blogs and found the link to my cousin Heather's blog is still there. She is my younger cousin who passed away last year of breast cancer. She is the most amazing person who, I am certain , has made heaven a happier place!! NO ONE can match her smile and enthusiasm and sense of humor! She is missed so much! On the header of her blog, she had this quote. It touched me so much , I had to share it!
ttfn:)

"Let us relish life as we live it, find joy in the journey, and share our love with friends and family. One day each of us will run out of tomorrows." Thomas S. Monson

St. Patty's Day .....and we spotted some green

2010-03-16T15:46:00.000-07:00

We went to Storybook Park today! The sun was shining and the kids were good while I was at the office this morning so off we went, as promised, to the park. This is the first day since last fall it's been nice enouph outside to go play there. The grass was getting green and there wee SWARMS of happy little kids!! It was like cabin fever had hit every person under 3 feet tall in a 10 mile radius! It was a BLAST!!! Just watching Piper's face on all that fun play equipment was priceless! I know it had to be her first time on a slide...as she didn't know how it would all work as we slid down and same with the swings!! Her smile didn't go away for the whole hour we were there. How I love that contagious little smile!!Ashton met some friends from school and had fun playing with them. He was showing them around like he owned the joint??? Whatever...it was fun to watch and fun to record on my phone's camera:) I am so lucky to be able to be a stay at home (kind of) kid...I mean mom. In the words of Adam Sandler, " I love to play, playing's my favorite" !!

This is for you mom

2010-03-14T16:35:00.000-07:00

Today is March 14th..It is my mom's birthday. I have been thinking about her all weekend. I miss her terribly and I suppose I always will have a part of my heart that's empty ...(for now). As I was goofing around with my kids these last couple days I would sit back and watch them interact, noticing the funny ways they each go about things. Noticing their individual personalities and how each one of them deals with life made me laugh. I am sure it wasn't easy for my mom to raise us. I am sure she had many days she wanted to run and hide for a while. I know I certainly do. The thought came to me though, as I was watching them bowl..."mom, I wish you could see this.. look at how Ashton dotes on his sisters, making sure they get the ball going in the right spot. I wish she could help me as I drag Ashton off the floor as he threw a monster tantrum because I didn't give him money for the arcade. Family, especially moms, are the people in your life who love you when things are great and suffer with you when things are not so great. I wish I had paid better attention to how she handled Matt and his fits in the grocery store and of my stubborn, emotional attitude when I was a teen...She was the greatest of mothers. She was the greatest of women ,and I was lucky enouph to call her mom. It then occurred to me that she CAN see my kids growing and changing. She CAN see me struggle as I try to raise my kids without scarring them for life!! haha I know she's around and is laughing and crying right along with me. I love you mom, so so much. I hope in some way, I have made you proud and in the course of living , I am learning, learning to be more like you and more like The Savior. Thanks for being my mom and my friend.

Two peas in a pod

2010-03-14T16:28:00.000-07:00

My Twins:) Just goofing around today...it's sunny outside but way too cold for our planned photo shoot so I just goofed around with my point and shoot. These 2 are 4 months apart and have been together since before they can remember! They have no idea now how much their bond will mean to them in the years to come...

2010-03-13T13:48:00.000-08:00

You like my makeover???

Puppy Love

2010-03-13T13:01:00.000-08:00

Piper got to go to my friend"s house where there's a pen of puppies! Here's her first attempt at holding a puppy... She was thrilled!

What a year so far

2010-03-07T19:30:00.000-08:00

I finally got some more pictures onto my computer and thought I'd better get them on here! In 2010 we have been to China to get our new Daughter Piper, had Kai's 13th birthday, went and got Piper sealed to us, had Jonah's birthday and his baptism! Phew! Now I need a nap! Here are some shots I snapped along the way of the Mallory Mahem first quarter of 2010!! Enjoy!

I made a wish...and you came true.

2010-03-02T20:08:00.000-08:00

Tomorrow my Jonah Matthew Jin Zheng Mallory turns 8. I'll admit, I am a little weepy tonight. He's so grown up. WHEN did this happen? He is such an unlikely miracle in our life . One I couldn't bear to be without! When we were looking at files, I saw many little girls that would be a perfect little sister for Mia. After all she was the only girl and one more would just make it complete. It's a long story but somehow, none of those girls felt "right". I kept looking at his picture and wondered when that cute little "Jasper"(that was his file name) was going to find his family! After all, he was almost too old now to be likely adopted...I read his file and cried when I saw his braces on his legs and read that he had been in the hospital for 30 days after surgery to repair his clubbed feet. The hospital report said they gave him advil for pain. ADVIL??? Oh how much pain he must have had to endure..all without a momma and baba to hold him and tell him it would be okay. He was , after all only 2 at the time. This was in November (the 8th to be exact). Jarrod and I still didn't feel any of the girls on the list were right for us...the feeling just wasn't there. Odd for me...let me tell you! Then one night Jarrod and I were talking about him...wondering why someone hadn't scooped him up! After all he would be such a great addition to ANY family. We had been in China getting Mia and had met a boy close to his age being adopted by a family in our group. Oh how kind and gentle he was with our little Mia. You could see the nurturing, protective feelings he had toward other children he fostered while in the orphanage. His name was Daniel. HE planted a seed of love in our hearts for these "older boys" that everyone was so afraid to adopt. We think it must have been all meant to be. I believe there are NO accidents because on Christmas morning, Jarrod gave us all an envelope. Each envelope had a letter in it. When we placed all the collective letters on the floor it spelled "JASPER"....That was it! I started to cry, Jarrod teared up and we were on our way to CHINA AGAIN to bring home our son! He was almost 6. Crazy!!!! What the heck were we doing? We had never planned this but let me tell you. There is no way to explain how the SPIRIT lead our hearts to him. Now fastforward two years later. He is by far one of the GREATEST blessings in my life. He is myright hand man every day! He never tires of helping me or Dad with anything. He loves to clean, cook, and make me happy! Yes, the first 6 months were filled with LOTS of adjustments . Looking back I can see just how brave he was...he spoke not a lick of english when we got him yet the very first day he was playing jokes on his brothers in the hotel room. He had to endure new smells, new food, funny tal blonde people telling him what to do...and the list goes on! He was quite spoiled at the orphanage so he had to learn to accept "no" for an answer. That wasn't easy for anyone! lol!
But here he is. My first grader, my big boy...all ready to be baptized on Saturday. I look at the pictures of our early days with him and see such a different Jonah. He is now definitely out of his shell and IN CHARGE!! I am proud of him and so so humbled we get to be his family! Love you honey!!! I'd walk the Earth for any of my kids....and I truly believe you were MINE from the beginning of time!!!!
Here are some pictures from his referral picture, pictures of him in his orphanage while waiting for us to get there ( took 7 months). The picture of him on his bed was at 6 months home.Then there's his first Chritmas home... So many firsts that seem so long ago ...mostly because I can't imagine our family without him!! Enjoy. I will be sure to post pictures of him from tomorrow and his Baptizm on Saturday!! So see ya soon.

What's in a name?

2010-02-09T11:43:00.000-08:00

I have been super busy and bad at updating our blog but I do have a change to tell ya about...especially if you aren't on facebook. When we got Xiao Qi home and started to call her Lola it just didn't fit her ! She also hated it , it seemed as she would say " Bushir" (that's a firm NO in Chinese) when I would call her that. After a couple weeks it was obvious to us she did want an english name but it wasn't going to be Lola. Jarrod and I gave her a short list of 3 names to choose from each with Xiao Qi for a middle name. Eva , Piper, or Ayvah. She liked Eva and Piper. Well to make a long story short, it came time to bless her at church and we really wanted to make a decision then and there that she would be happy with. How cool to choose your own name! She is 4 after all and very opinionated. The English was coming very quickly for her and her little sentences were enouph of a mix of English and Chinese that communication wasn't hard. She always made her point with VIGOR...lol!!So the Sunday came (Jan. 31) and it was time to bless her at church. I told Jarrod he needed to decide..him and Xiao Qi and to not tell me...just do it! So he did..... And so her name is Piper Leigh Xiao Qi Mallory. I am happy because it was my my favorite of the 3 and she loves it. She came home and announced that her dolly can be Lola but that SHE was Piper Xiao Qi:) Yay for happy endings...

2010-01-27T17:52:00.001-08:00

Yes my plate is full but....

2010-01-27T08:36:00.000-08:00

I have heard non stop this past year..WHY would you adopt again? Why do that to yourself? Your plate is already full. Someone else will go get her... believe me I have heard it all!!! I have also heard many many people who "get it" say quite the opposite and we have had enormous support. I was holding Xiao Qi this morning and just in awe becasue this kid is ALWAYS smiling! She is the happiest little girl! Her disposition is so bright that it can't help but make ANYONE smile. How did I get so lucky again?? It didn't take long to realize how my kids were my kids because of my Heavenly Father. How does he know what I need at that time? How does he bless me with just the right trial at just the right time then reward me with so many blessings I so do not deserve??? HOW does he pull that off with such perfect timing and love? HE knows me!!! HE knows me!!!! I want the world to know that YES my plate is full but I have chosen very carefully what is ON my plate with the help and grace of my Heavenly Father...so I am the lucky one.
Here are some more pictures of our trip to China. The perfect way to complete our family.

Pics of our first whole day home

2010-01-23T19:55:00.000-08:00

Thanks Kim for snapping these...they are precious!

Almost Home

2010-01-12T08:28:00.000-08:00

(this is Kim, Marianne's sister-in-law, posting again. The pictures and information I post are coming from Marianne's e-mails because Mare can't access her blog from China. So...when some of you posted encouraging and caring comments I sent her a copy. Although there have been more added that I missed. When you read what she wrote in her e-mail you'll understand why I'm explaining that tid bit of information to you. Anyway, Jarrod, Marianne AND Lola are almost home and doesn't Lola look you could just sit and laugh with her for a long time? Her smile radiates!)
Here's Marianne's e-mail:
(Her response to the comments from friends and family) It’s a slice of home that we really appreciated today! We travelled most of yesterday and right now have to get to the medical clinic for her physical and TB test.
Lola is doing so much better. She loves to “entertain us” and seems to be liking mama now. She bragged to the guide yesterday about her pants that her momma got for her. She was so proud !! Superficial I know, but it was a good sign. She is THE spunkiest girl and so joyful..all the time! She is fascinated by all she sees and smiles A LOT! She and Mia will be quite the pair. I can see her and Bryn and Mia having a great time playing dress up. THREE bosses!! Hmmmmm we’ll see?!!

Jarrod is wrapped around her little finger which is so dear to watch. Let’s just say “What Lola wants….Lola gets” ..lol! We are in Guangzhou now and we feel so at home here. We love this island we are on and feel very at home. We even had real live American fare last night for dinner at our favorite little restaurant here called Lucy”s. Lola loved it. She loves Ketchup!! She is now liking “feeding mama”. She also spent two hours rubbing lotion on my hands on the plane ride yesterday…so cute...
(Kim again: They must have gone to the zoo! I know they didn't return to the orphanage as originally planned because it would have been very hard for Lola and caused some emotional hardship. We meet her soon...they come home Thursday. That's just two days away)

Lola with Mom and Dad

2010-01-07T08:17:00.000-08:00

(from two different e-mails, the first part of this post sent earlier in the week)

Hello all. We have had a bit of a problem with internet so it has taken a
bit to send pictures. I hope they get through.

Lola talks non stop and is healthy and beautiful as could be. She is not sure about me but adores her baba and they are two peas in a pod. It is typical as she was very close with her nanny. Daddy says I'll grow on her!!hha very funny.

She is very extroverted and even shook the hand of the man in the elevator this morning. She is stubborn as all get out!! She likes HER clothes that she came in and REFUSES to take them off! She comes unglued! SO, we are just patiently trying to keep her clean while she keeps her "security" in tact:) We have to go on a city tour now. We love you so much...all of our supportive and wonderful family and friends.

(2nd e-mail with more pictures sent Wednesday, January 6, 2009)We are getting very homesick for the kids. We are one week through and the last week always goes by so fast. I hope and pray it’s the same this time. We fly to Guangzhou tomorrow. It’s a short flight...only 2 hours. It’s warmer there and is very familiar.

Nanjing has been amazing. So much history. It was the capital of China before it was moved to Beijing about 600 yrs ago. In many ways it is more rich in culture than Beijing.

The people are so dear and we have has many well wishers and curious locals.
Xiao Qi is doing well. She is getting homesick for her orphanage and her nanny she calls big mama.

I was able to meet big mama who was also grieving hard at the parting of her long time baby… Xiao Qi was a favorite in her orphanage and is known to be very spoiled and very bossy…So far they are right on. She is a good girl though and is happy as long as baba is around.

She is not too keen on momma yet as she has told us that “my big mama likes me” .
I am grateful she has had such a strong bond early in life and I hear this actually is good news for attatching to me. All my friends who have been through this say give her a few weeks and she’ll be on me like glue. She did warm up to me this afternoon when I took her shoe shopping. She got to pick out her very own shoes and I gave her some money to give to the shop keeper. She was all smiles and quickly took my hand to go find the next shop!! THAT’s progress!!

Kiss my kids for me. I miss them terribly and cannot wait to be all together as a family. Family is everything!! I am so happy our final piece to our picture is finally with us.
Loves from Nanjing!!!

5 more days

2009-12-29T18:42:00.000-08:00

I only have to endure 5 more days until our Lola Bon is "our" Lola Bon!!! I am so excited. I came across this quote tonight. I love it and I hope to live by it in some form ...read it, love it live it:)

It's not enough to have lived. We should be determined to live for something. May I suggest that it be creating joy for others, sharing what we have for the betterment of personkind, bringing hope to the lost and love to the lonely.
Leo Buscaglia

I'm looking mom....

2009-12-19T13:25:00.001-08:00

I had to record this one for posterity. It amazes me how kids are born comedians.. Mia was getting ready to go outside and she couldn't find her shoes. I said "Mia , did you look really hard?" She replied." yes mom, I looked hard AND soft"...

Christmas 2009

2009-12-14T20:14:00.000-08:00

This feels so wierd taking this picture without Lola since we will have her the week after Christmas but I have to get a snapshot every year..so here we are. It was like pulling teeth getting them to sit for a second and smile big but they did it! We are so so grateful for our life and all who share our friendship and love. Have a wonderful Holiday!

FINALLY

2009-12-10T14:39:00.000-08:00

We are doing the Happy dance here today! We got our Travel approval a couple days ago and today got our Confirmation on our Consulate date!!! The waiting os OVAH!!!!!! We leave New years, get her on the 3rd of January(yay) and get all our in province stuff done by the 8th, fly to Guangzhou for her consulate appointment on the 12th , pick up her visa on the 14th then home on the 15th!!! We should leave 3 weeks from today!! I am not scurrying around getting ready.. because I thought we'd be there NOW..so Christmas is ready, her room is ready, I could leave today and be ready!! Happy day! We are so grateful we do not have to pray for our "sister in China" at family prayer much longer...we can just pray with thankgiving that she is HOME!!! PHEW !!!! We hope to see this pagoda when we go to her province. China is so full of beautiful things! (including Lola:)

A touching poem from a friend

2009-12-06T12:38:00.000-08:00

Here is a poem a fellow adoptive Mom wrote. I really liked it. Merry Christmas!

Twas the Night Before Christmas--for the Parentless.....

Twas the night before Christmas and all through the land
there are parentless children, with no toys in hand

No stockings to be hung by the chimny with care
no hopes for a family soon to be there

Their beds are not snug--but cold and quite bare
there are no goodnight kisses--no one to care

While we in our homes, laughing in delight
all settle down for a Merry Chistmas Eve night

When in someone's heart--there arises a clatter
there are children in need--who's lives really DO matter!

Away to the computer please go in a flash
to see the sweet face with whom YOU could be matched!

While a child you see--their beautiful face all aglow
could this be MY child--could I already know??

When in the dreams of the orphan--what always appears
is a family to love them, to care and hold dear

As you stare at that child--your heart beats real quick--
for you know in your heart that sweet face will stick

More dreams sweet children have--to call parents by name-
come mama! come daddy! come family to claim!

To the ends of the earth--your heart seems to call
now child--I'm coming--I wish for you ALL!

So on a plane to your child--over rooftops you flew
to hold this dear soul--a wish did come true

And then in a twinkling-I saw through the door
this child of my heart-that was waiting no more

As I got my camera and was turning around-
into my arms did he come with a bound!

He was dressed in many layers from his head to his foot
and into my heart his life was just put

there was no round face--no plump little belly
just sad little eyes, and legs shaking like jelly

In a swirl of a pen, and a stamp and a seal
my world became brighter--like I could suddenly feel!

We spoke not a word--they weren't needed at all
and I knew in this moment where I got this call

God layed his hands on my heart--and to the occasion I rose
and He could do it for you--this question He'll pose.....

It won't be a shout--no not even a whistle
it won't be real clear--but faint like a whisper

Can you make room in your heart--if you try with your might?
And make a difference for one--help them see the light?

I can see you exclaim as you hold your child tight--
Thank you Lord for this gift--you got it EXACTLY right!

Thanksgiving 2009/Happy Birthday Lola Bonnie

2009-12-02T11:32:00.000-08:00

Thanksgiving this year held a whole new meaning for us, as it was also Lola Bonnie's birthday! We had a wonderful dinner and good times playing cards and games and watching football of course! It will be Bon Bon's last birthday in an orphanage so we had much to be grateful for! Here's a few snapshots of the Thanksgiving weekend..

This darling little kitty that Ashton and Mia are holding is Zoey,Lola's new kitty! Happy Brithday hunny...momma's coming soon!

Mia's funny of the day

2009-12-02T09:59:00.001-08:00

I dropped by my good friend's baby shower last night and took Mia with me..you know for some girl time! Well, the evening was fun and Mia had a great time playing with Steph's daughter Valerie. They pranced around with their balloons all night with smiles as big as Texas. As we got in the car to leave she asked if we could take her new balloon home with us. I replied, sure honey... at which point she turned to her balloon and said" come on Greenish, mom said you can come"! Yep, she named her green balloon "greenish" and took it home to bed! She's such a crack up! At least it wasn't another stray cat...lol!
These two pictures are a testament to how our baby girl has grown ...from Gotcha in 2006 to now! I know I have said this a thousand times but we are so lucky to have this child for our very own...

Why wouldn't I?

2009-11-23T19:49:00.000-08:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfJIgpPtbBc

You NEED to watch this! It's the BEST 7 minutes you'll have all day! If you have wondered WHY we are adding to our family one more time through adoption, this is your answer!

A Family night to remember..

2009-11-23T17:46:00.000-08:00

Jarrod is out of town again so it felt weird having family night without "the Dad" but life must go on right? I assigned Kai the lesson. I knew it would be short and sweet and really just had a lazy attitude about it tonight... Boy was I wrong...it was THE BEST EVER!!! Kai's thought for the night was short but so perfect...especially coming from him my moody 12 yr old ..haha. He just told how Heavenly Father has had a plan all along for our family, and that plan was for us to come together through adoption and he was so grateful it did.He was grateful for his forever family and knew we were lucky to have eachother..for eternity. I was moved to tears(imagine that). I will not soon forget Kai's lesson tonight:)

Jack Jack strikes again

2009-11-21T16:13:00.000-08:00

I just picked up Jack from his friend's house..after discussing his fun day he asked me a question with that smirk on his face...you know the one that says, "I know something you don't " kind of look. With Jack, our walking encyclopedia, that is in no way a stretch...
Jack:"Mom, have you ever seen a Solar Eclipse?"
Me: No Jack, I haven't.
Jack: "That's because the last one was in 1913.." he says with that Jack voice and that Jack grin...AHHH gotta love this kid!!

The Starfish series...

2009-11-18T15:01:00.000-08:00

These necklace and earring sets are symbolic of the parabel of the starfish... you know the one where the old man throws one starfish at a time back to safety into the ocean. There are hundreds, even thousands of them...certainly he can't "save them all". He replies.."It made a difference to that one".
This is a special story at our house as you might guess:) only I get to keep my precious little starfish!!!

These are 15.00 plus 2.00 shipping (as they are lighter than the others) for the set. Just chip in at the "chip in" and email me which color you want as well as in the comment box when you chip in. Don't forget to give me your address and ph # too!. My email again is marem@safelink.net

Again...ALL proceeds go to Lola's Orphanage Donation!!

Jewelry Chip in

2009-11-18T14:36:00.000-08:00

Just tell me which one you want in the comment part of the chip in when you pay and I will delete the picture of it on the post and it's YOURS!

Jewelry for my little Gem

2009-11-18T14:08:00.000-08:00

I have been making jewelry to help raise money for Lola's Orphanage. We are getting so close to travel! I hope to have TA next week sometime! This would mean leaving in early December! This jewelry is beautiful (if I say so myself) and it's made with LOVE for my baby girl! If you need a Christmas Gift for someone special I am selling these at a very reduced price. The beads on most of them are semi precious stones and I need to at least break even. Okay,so it seemed like a great idea at first to make these for a fundraiser at the time:0) haha ....They took upwards of 100 hours, over the last month ,to make ,and a chunk of change to purchase the stones. They all come as a set of a necklace and earrings! If you are interested, just email me at marem@safelink.net and tell me your address and ph #. I will mail it right away. To pay go to the new "Chip in" . The prices listed are for the SET..
I am crossing my fingers these sell and bring joy to the person receiving them. We are so blessed to be adopting our daughter, and this truly was a labor of love.
THANKS AND HAPPY SHOPPING!!!
I will post 4 more in a bit so there are more to come! BTW the necklace with the square beads and beautiful sparkley stone that looks white in the picture is actually an ICEY PINK and is gorgeous!!!
All of these are 20 dollars even plus 3.75 shipping for a total of 23.75

Pumpkin Cheesecake for my Pumpkin

2009-11-12T18:31:00.000-08:00

We got GREAT news this week that the US Consulate in Guangzhou, China did a super speedy job of getting Lola's preliminary Visa processed so we are at the LAST stop and we should have travel approval in two weeks!!! It is unbelievable how our home is buzzing with the excitement of having sister home........FINALLY!
I am very grateful for the sucess of the fundraisers we have done so far for the orphanage donation. I recently inquired if Lola had a favorite toy and a favorite food. The director of the orphanage said that they are so limited on toys there is not much opportunity for a favorite....same with food..they are so limited on the food they can offer because there is so little money . My heart BROKE into a thousand pieces. I am anxious to get there and see what I can do.... This Saturday my friend Lana is having a Christmas Boutique where lots of fun gift items will be sold . I am making pumpkin cheesecakes for the event and hope to raise some if the dollars I still need to raise before we leave. I also have been making jewelry at night and hope to offer something for everyone. It really is so pretty and I have had fun with it. I am also hoping to have some recipe books there also . Lana is also going to have a "make and take" craft as well as hair flowers/bows, cards and stamps,floral arrangements,and the best part...free food:) So if you live in the area, COME BY!! It's at 374 E. 150 S. Burley (4 doors down from me) this Saturday ..Nov. 14th from 10-2:00.By the way......my pumpkin Cheesecake recipe is The Cheesecake Factory's recipe!! Can you say DIVINE?

Mia's Dance Recital

2009-11-06T20:43:00.000-08:00

Here's Mia in all her glory! She had a great time tonight at her Christmas recital (well, the almost Christmas recital..) It seems like yesterday she was 20 months old and we were watching her dance to the elevator music at LAX on the way home from China. This girl loves to dance...to ANYTHING!! She has come a long way since her first recital 2.5 years ago when she got on stage and broke into tears! Tonight she was all smiles and waves as she got to show the world "her moves" as she puts it. We couldn't love that little spunky girl any more if we tried! She has my heart...all of it!

Chinese songs sung by our sweet little friend Grace

2009-11-04T18:09:00.000-08:00

I got an email a few days ago from a friend in Utah who adopted the beautiful Monroe Grace from CHI (the same agency we used with Mia and Jonah) . Grace was 10 I think when she came home to her family . She has such a beautiful , bright personality and shines from the inside out let me tell you! Her parents recorded her in a recording studio and have a CD. There are 14 genuine, beautiful Chinese songs that many of my fellow adoptive families would love. I know my kids would anyway. Grace's mom Stephenie, has approached me and asked if they can sell these cd's and donate the proceeds to our orphanage donation! What an angel. We are so very blessed these days ! If you are interested , go to her blog and order it. There is even a sample of her singing there. It brings tears to my eyes. Her blog address is www.elizamei.blogspot.com actually if you email to the following email songs@the-earls.com they will send you a paypal request and it's done.. SO easy. I want to play her sweet little voice for the world. It truly is beautiful. A piece China , that's what it feels like when I hear her voice. OKay, that email again is songs@the-earls.com ( it's a web site actually)
She is selling them for 10.00 !They will send you an electronic copy or a hard copy if you request it. What a great idea...I am so glad she was able to record those songs while Grace had them so firmly planted still in her mind and heart. SHE inspires me!

Miss L

2009-11-03T08:52:00.000-08:00

This one is my favorite! She looks like such a big girl . I love her hair!!! Yep, she's a Mallory for sure! She has her daddy's smile! Maybe I need to produce a side by side of her and daddy!!

She seems to be a great big sister

2009-11-03T08:50:00.000-08:00

Lola Smiles

2009-11-03T08:48:00.000-08:00

Lola Bon

2009-11-03T08:43:00.000-08:00

So sick of this....

2009-10-24T09:40:00.000-07:00

I am officially whining! I am going to vent right now so bear with me or click away from this blog right this minute!!! I am so tired of going to bed at night without Lola! Who is tucking her in at night? Is she having a good day? Is she behaving? (yes, that is already going thru my mind haha) Is she wondering if we are ever going to get there? Is she wondering if we still want her? She has said that "other friends of hers are already home with their families"...:( WE ARE READY!!! Mia HATES going to bed alone in her room. Lola will be her roommate....
I have washed, folded or hung her little clothes more than once. I picked up a couple more hair bows for her...ones with headbands because her head is most likely shaved:( It's flu season....has she been well? Has she been not feeling well and is having to just take it like a brave little girl without a momma to hold her and help her feel better with books, warm, herb tea and some tylenol ??? Is it getting cold there yet? NONE of the orphanages have any heat...so is she cold. Do they have a warm coat for her? Does she get to have warm socks on at night? There is nothing worse than sleeping with no sox when it's cold...
She is living in an institution.....I HATE to think about that..a big giant day care essentially....never having your family come to get you at the end of any given day. I HATE thinking about that but I do....all day long!!
I guess I am at the end of my adoption pregnancy....I have done this both ways 3 times. I have to say that emotionally, THIS is so much harder. My baby is on the other side of the planet!!!!!!!!
ok...I guess I am done for now. We will hopefully get Travel Approval in 6 weeks...then we are off to China. We will keep you all posted!By the way...this picture is of an orphanage in China ...I don't think it's Lola's and Lola isn't in this picture..I just think everyone needs to see, study, take in a picture like this every now and again. It's very real, the need, the orphans who need homes, please, if you have any room in your heart for one more ...don't hesitate..it's amazing and frankly nothing short of a miracle for all involved!

5 little pumkins

2009-10-19T20:06:00.000-07:00

We went to the pumkin patch tonight. It's our yearly ritual we absolutely LOVE! There seemed to be a little sadness tonight though.we, as in all of us were acutely aware that our little Lola Bon wasn't with us. We are probably only 6 weeks away from getting travel approval but tonight it feels like 6 months! Oh I miss that little pistol! Here are 5 of our 6 little goblins as we wait for Xiao Qi..3.5 yrs old...waiting for her family to arrive in Nantong China. I love you baby... momma and baba are coming soon!

Getting Healthy for a great cause......

2009-09-16T12:55:00.000-07:00

I have been racking my brain for ways to further reach our goal to raise the orphanage donation for our daughter's orphanage in China. We have been so blessed to know she will be home soon . I feel honored to be her Mama. I know it will all work out in the end, and that the donation we are required to take will help feed and house the many many friends of our daughter's who will remain in China. I want to offer my services as a nutritionist in a way that is easy and effective no matter where you live to help raise the last chunk of money we need before we travel. SO............drumroll please:) ...... haha I've always wanted to say that:)...
I am going to offer a 4 week plan for ANYONE who wants to loose weight, make their metabolism fire up, and feel so good you can't imagine!!. I usually give this infornmation out ovver a span of 4-6 weeks for a client to help with their weight loss goals.I work with heart patients, diabetics, fibromyalgia and overweight clients on a regular basis. THIS WORKS FOR ALL OF THEM!!!!! I use a very flexible, very "real life" plan for my clients. You eat real food, you will just be paying more mind to WHEN, HOW OFTEN, AND HOW TO "FOOD COMBINE" to get your body to burn fat around the clock!!!......THIS METHOD GIVES YOUR BODY NO OTHER CHOICE but to burn FAT! Your body composition will change . Let me repeat.......your body composition will change!! I have a friend who did this, and I saw her go from 28 % body fat to 16% in a matter of a couple months! I tried this and within 4 weeks I had dropped the weight I gained this summer worrying about my baby:) It is fool proof and EASY! Exercise 3 days a week is suggested . Anyway, I can't say enouph about this method I use. I have watched it work over and over and over again! You have the power to train your body to burn fat all night long!!! EVERY NIGHT!!!!
So, the details. I have put together a "packet" if you will with ALLL the instructions, the food amounts and recipes from my own kitchen that I have developed to fit this plan. I have spent almost 2 years putting all this together. I have done the thinking for you! NOW all you have to do is plug it in and EAT!!!! ( you will eat alot trust me! 5 times a day:)!! It is very flexible and YOU decide what you want to eat......just order it and you will see for yourself!
So the plan is.....when you order, just go to the paypal widget here on my blog. The price is only 25.00!!! The average client doing this is about 225.00!! So DO IT NOW FOR 25 bucks!!! SEND ME A NOTE THRU PAYPAL( you go to the "Orphanage Donation " widget below -just keep scrolling down) WHEN YOU DONATE WITH YOUR ADDRESS, HEIGHT AND WEIGHT,. This will give me the information I need to get you started. I also will be available ANY TIME for questions and tips........via my cell phone or email.
Picture yourself lighter, happier and healthier for a GREAT cause!!

BTW.......I have recieved donations in the mail from people who wanted to do thatinstead of on the paypal. I want to thank them so much and reflect that on my donation widget! So whatever it says,,,,,, add about 550.00 to that! My heart is full and I cry alot!We are so blessed. Thank you a thousand times.I love you!

please watch

2009-09-07T16:39:00.000-07:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UzFJaF2QKO8&feature=player_embedded

Car wash for mei mei was a success.....

2009-09-02T11:10:00.000-07:00

Our car wash and bake sale went really well and we had a ball! Thank you so much for the amazing support. We have a great support system here and we love all of you who came and ate goodies and let us wash your ride:)
The kids had fun getting wet and seeing our friends and family come out to join the fun. We raised some money for her orphanage and are closer to our goal of raising 5,000 for the orphanage donation.
We are missing our little girl and can't wait for her to meet all of you..our family and friends who we know love her too!
Stay tuned.......soon I will post lots of items and services to win or bid on....I haven't decided. Some ideas I had are handmade jewelry, babysitting, food coach meals, sod, and more. So I will keep you all posted.

Orphanage Donation

2009-08-26T14:59:00.000-07:00

For all her family and friends who can't be here for our events, here is a very simple way to donate and help her get home! Our heartfelt thanks to all who already love her as we do. THANK YOU!!

Silent Auction for my China Doll

2009-08-26T12:08:00.000-07:00

We are getting down to the last few months before the big trip to get our little girl. I have been doing side jobs( food coaching) and a garage sale to help with the orphanage donation .......that being said, we are still trying to find ways to bring our daughter home ie. the required orphanage donation of 5,000.00 . I have decided to do a car wash this Saturday at Stokes Fresh food Market! If you don't need your car washed then come down for some yummy chocolate cake( yes my famous Aunt Kerry's recipe) and other goodies. The Orphanage donation has gone UP by a couple thousand dollars since our last adoption and is on top of the other adoption expenses. These orphanages don't have heat, rationed food many times, few luxuries to say the least and my daughter has been there for 3 nd a half years! I cannot wait to hold her in my arms and bring her home, and will willingly and gladly leave that donation behind for the children I am leaving behind , and there are many.
Also on that note, I am having a Holiday Open House in October where there will be lots of goodies and items to help get you started on your holiday shopping. If you would like to donate items to sell, I would SO appreciate it! There will be lots of fun baskets and candles and Pampered Chef and Jewelry, and other tables, so plan on coming out! I will post more on that later:)
Thanks for being so supportive.......I have the best family and friends ever. I know, through many sleepless nights and prayer, that she is meant to be in our family. It's a long story, but we both feel , and have felt for some time that someone is missing when we kneel around the couch for family prayer or gather around the table for dinner. So crazy as one more will be, it's right for us and we are very happy to get her home where she belongs.

OH Canada!!!

2009-08-14T08:02:00.000-07:00

I thought since it had been 2 months since I posted anything I better get my act together!!! We recently went to Canada for my grandmother's funeral. She was the most wonderful woman. Seriously the sweetesst, most kind person I have ever encountered. In all my life I have never seen her mad. I never ever heard her raise her voice. She was unassuming and humble and she will be missed dearly. She was 90 and ready to go home to Heavenly Father and to be with Grandpa who was her soul mate. I love you grandma!!
After the funeral we went camping on the way home. It was a blast. We spent time on a beautiful lake with family and saw Glacier National Park. It was AMAZING. Here are some pictures. BTW my Dad got to make the trek with us in the motorhome which was the icing on the cake:)

2009-06-02T07:56:00.000-07:00

I debated whether to post this experience I had last night with Jonah, but something inside of me said I needed to. Last night Jonah, Jack, and I went to the store. On the way there Jonah told me about how in "his China" ( usually when he says this he is talking about his orphanage) he had 7 friends die!!! Now knowing that in China, orphans die all the time of things that are very minor to us, like flu, pneumonia, and other very treatable things. Then there are the orphans who have heart defects or some other correctable condition , well, ........correctable to us here in the US anyway.He then proceeded to tell me that in China , when his friends died they got put "in the fire". This made sense since all people get creamated there after death. He told me that he "saw his friend go to sleep and die, then he had to go to the fire". My little boy saw death up close and personal at such a young age. ....... These kids , or "his friends" as he put it,are kids just like any other, like any of yours or mine. They died........alone. Yes there were rotating nannies and the other orphans around them but who held them as they were sick or suffering? How scared were they, dying alone?? I have been there , to orphanages in China. Some are nicer than others but they all have one thing in common. They are filled to the brim with beautiful little children who need a Momma!!!!!!!! They are beautiful individuals, have their own personalities,their own little hearts, fears and dreams. When I look at my Jonah I see a sensitive, smart(scary smart), funny little man who has the world at his feet!!( interesting choice of words since he was abandoned because he had clubbed feet).......
PLEASE.........if you have ever even had a SINGLE THOUGHT about international adoption, think about it again!!!!!!!!!!!! Please understand that these kids deserve a chance not only for a family, but to LIVE!!!!!! ... I am so sad today for all those perfect little people who are left behind...
It's like the parable of the starfish........you know where the old man spends hours throwing starfish from the shore into the sea so that they might live. A man approaches him and asks "why are you doing that?.... You cannot save them all, you see there are miles and miles and thousands and thousands of them." The old man picked up yet another starfish and threw him back into the sea where he could live another day.......and said " It made a difference to THAT ONE"...
I will try to post some before and after pictures of my adopted kiddos who are forever part of me....I couldn't breathe a breath without them in my life..... THEY are the greatest gift let me tell you!! They bring me more joy than I could EVER bring them... They make me laugh, cry( I mean cry in a good way:) most of the time:) and smile every day!! What amazing little creatures they are!!!!!

Mia's "how well do you know Mom"

2009-05-24T18:20:00.000-07:00

At school Mia had to complete a paper entitled How well do you know Mom...
It's always a little nerve wracking when you wonder what's coming out of the mouth of your 4 yr old! They are so honest!!!LOL!
These answers were soo funy I had to post them.
1. If you had 100.00 what would you buy your Mom?
Mia's answer ..... I would buy her a pretty white feather....
2. What's Mom's favorite food?
Mia's answer: Hamburger and Potatoes...
This is false but it is probably Jarrod's so chalk one up for her!
3. How old is your mom?
Mia's answer...13!!!!
Perfect! That means I had Kai when I was one!!
4. What time does Mom get up?
Mia's answer......5 or 5:30 YEA RIGHT!!! maybe to go to the bathroom.......then straight back to bed!!!
5. What is the best thing Mom can cook?
Mia's answer..... Popcorn!! Funny, I guess she doesn't like my "food Coach" cooking! Perfect......tonight I will make popcorn for dinner:)
6. What does mom like to do at home?
Mia's answer.........She digs holes for plants!! very funny, can you tell we had just planted our garden:)
7. What is your favorite thing to do with Mom?
Mia's answer........................"We like to fly like a birdie"
This is sweet and I know exactly what she is talking about.... when we are on the tramp together, we run circles and flap our wings and sing "we can fly we can fly we can fly" from Peter Pan:)

Words can't express how precious this child is!

Jonah's funny of the day

2009-04-24T07:57:00.000-07:00

I HAD to sharethis one! If for anything , just so I don't forget all these cute little things he says. Soon he'll be all americanized and these funny things he says will be gone!
Jonah: "Mom, where you going?"
Me: " I am taking dinner to Danelle because she broke her big toe"
Jonah: "She got owie?"
Me: "Yes, she hasa BIG owie"
Jonah: " She broke her toe?"
Me: " Yes, she broke her toe
Jonah: " She gotta get a new one..."

I guess in China, you just get a new one! I'll take western medicine in this case!

You have GOT to read this

2009-04-22T12:56:00.001-07:00

There have been recent news reports concerning Rubiana Ali, the child-actress in the Oscar-winning movie, "Slumdog Millionaire", and her father's attempt to sell her to the highest bidder. It is important for adoptive families everywhere to speak-out against the use of the term "Adoption" in reference to this obvious case of child-trafficking. Too many major media outlets are reporting that Rubiana's father was trying to "offer her for adoption for a price". We must never allow the very wide line between child-trafficking and adoption to narrow. Offering a child FOR SALE, to make a profit and without regard for the child's well-being, is child trafficking. Thoughtfully and legally placing a child into a loving home for the purpose of bettering that child's life, is adoption. There is a growing wave of anti-adoption sentiment sweeping the world today. As parents and advocates, let us stand ready to correct this misconception whenever it may occur.

Our baby girl's orphanage donation

2009-04-22T09:09:00.000-07:00

Just so grateful

2009-04-20T18:37:00.000-07:00

I decided after a tearful converstion on the phone with my sister Paige last Thursday afternoon that I would hop on the nearest airplane and fly to cali to help her move. She is prego with her 3rd baby and should not be lifting and really needed some help. I felt so helpless talking to her, living clear in Idaho, until I remembered that I CAN do something about it. I got an on line plane ticket and was off to Salt Lake within 8 hours! How grateful I am to live in a time of "Jet Blue"!
Erica picked me up from the airport and we went straight to Paige's house and went right to work. Thanks E for helping on the spur of the moment like that. You are the best! This just made me so grateful for our family. I love my sis and would walk the Earth for her and I know she'd do the same for me. FAMILY IS EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!! I know I sometimes am wondering at the end of the day why I wanted a big family. Then I remember that I gave them EACHOTHER, that The Lord gave them eachother and that is priceless. THAT is worth every sleepless night, every mess, every crazy sunday morning trying to get everyone's teeth brushed for church ( not to mention trying to find 2 matching shoes for all 5 kids) . Life begins and ends with family. I am so excited for our little daughter who is waiting in China for her mommy and daddy. I love her so much already and can't wait to hold her in our arms.
Sorry, I think I am babbling now. Just for the record, this is how this mom feels today. Just so grateful.
Mare- mom to SIX fantastic kids!
ps........ Our little girl is the cutie in the middle with the blue shirt with red writing! She is SO a Mallory!

Hi Aunt Paige

2009-04-16T15:33:00.000-07:00

My mommy will be on a plane by 8:00 tomorrow morning.
Love,
Your neice,
Xiao Qi

Go check it!

2009-04-13T18:49:00.000-07:00

I am throwing a party for an ADORABLE LITTLE BOY who is being adopted from Ethiopia by my good friend Geanie. Tomorrow he turns two. He will have no gifts, no balloons, no hugs, he won't even know it's a special day. Well, it's special to us! His momma is so sad she can't hold him so I have a plan to put a smile on the face of this amazing family. Go straight to www.extraordinaryhousewives.blogspot.com to see details. I want to help with raising money for this boy to get home to his forever family! Go check it out!!! We can make small things turn into big gifts! Trust me , their hearts(the Rodger's Family) are so big.

Mom, .........we have a hair situation........

2009-04-06T09:10:00.000-07:00

This morning we have a friend over who is close to Jack's age, a darling little girl. ( Sarah's daughter Savana). Jack has been looking forward to it so he woke up, came out in rare form...............he was dressed and all cleaned up. Not typical for Jack first thing in the morning. Anyway, he called me over in a hurry and whispered......." Mom, I have a hair situation..." He turned around and there was a pick stuck in his bed head on the back of his head! Hilarious! I took care of it with a few squirts of no tangles stuff and off he went....... Way to go Jack! I can't wait 'till I can use this as leverage maybe when he's 16 or so!!

The daily "funny"

2009-04-05T18:46:00.000-07:00

OK, here's the funniest comment of the today.......so far. Maybe not to you ,but to me, hey , they are my kids so I am easily amused:)

I was giving Mia good Morning hug. Mia loves to hug constantly , which is fun for this momma. Anyway, I was hugging her and she said,,,,,, pretending she was choking from my grasp said...................Mom.......... your's "choking me in half". I will be sad the day she stops these" Mia -isms". They grow up way too fast!

Ok then one more just has to make the list! We were looking at some family pictures and Jonah was on my lap. He looked at this picture taken in Oct. 2007 . We were a good 9 months away from getting him home from China so he was not in the picture. He got really sad and asked where he was(in the picture). I told him he was in mommy's heart and we were sad without him but we are together now and we will ALWAYS be his forever family.He was NOT satisfied with that answer. He kept studying the picture and then he got this huge smile on his face! He lit up as he told me that he WAS in the family picture........... he was right there in the trees! ( notice the trees). So glad to know he's been with us all along! My baby is figuring it all out in his own time. He is my son in every way, and he is my son eternally. I know someday he will understand this as well as understand our love for him and his Heavenly Father's love for him. Life is G-O-O-D!!!!!!!!!

Bedtime at the cookoo's nest

2009-03-30T07:54:00.000-07:00

OK, a quick funny from bed time last night! I was putting Mia to bed. Ashton and Jonah could be heard getting out of their beds and fooling around in their bathroom.............not a good sign. I said to myself, not thinking Mia was awake at this point..." Oh those boys".... to which Mia muttered
"they're goin' down"...... and she seemed too thrilled about it! This girl is a peice of work! She is seriously about 10 years older than her biological age. Heaven help us, I have a teenage daughter!!!!!!!!

mom.........you're FREAKING ME OUT

2009-03-24T10:03:00.000-07:00

My handsome Daddy on the left! I couldn't imagine life without you!~

I have had the BEST morning ever- and one of the funniest comments by Mia was made, I just had to blog it for posterity!! HeeHee
well, our sweet friend Emma (8) had a bone marrow transplant last month and her numbers are now showing that she is engrafted! The healthy,cancer free marrow is in the house and has taken over! I was in tears from receiving this news, then the phone rang and it was Paige- my sister. My Dad had surgery last week to remove a softball size tumor from his kidney. It was scary andcomplicated as his kidneys are conjoined. Anyway, after a long wait we found out that the tumor which had grown while setting up the surgery, is BENIGN!!!! BENIGN!!!!!!!!! I think that's my new favorite word. My Daddy means the world to me and he is OK!!! I prayed the Lord would see fit to keep him here with us and our prayers have been answered. So, As I am crying my eyes out with happy tears my daughter looks at me concerned. I tell her it's ok and I am crying happy tears, well, she looks at me with a serious face ans says, "Mom, stop your crying....you are FREAKING ME OUT! I was laughing, crying and peeing my pants all at once!
Seriously, this is the BEST day ever!

Isn't she CUTE

2009-03-23T16:48:00.000-07:00

Hello, my name is Xiao Qi and I live in an orphanage in China........

I know, I know, just when I think I have seen the cutest orphans around the world needing a Momma and Baba, it never ceases to amaze me how precious these kids are. If you have ever thought about "just one more" or thought you'd like to help someone in the world who has no voice or means to help themselves................ then may I suggest getting on a plane and bring some PURE JOY to your life! Works for me!

Happy Birthday Ashton

2009-03-19T20:35:00.000-07:00

Mia giving Ashton a big birthday hug this morning!
Ashton and Mia playing "oh no! Where's Mia's head??- Those are some cute toes sticking out of that pink coat!
And here's the picnic in the living room Ashy style......with pringles and his two best friends:)It's pretty great when your best friends are you brother and sister!
Yes that's right! It's Ashton's big #5 today! We kind of laid low because we will celebrate with family on Sunday when Daddy can be home. So, we decided to have a celebratory picnic in the living room with all of Ashton's favorite snacks! So we had a healthy breakfast of pringles and wheatables........ oh and some assorted veggies(plastic):) He was so cute as he went through the day just blown away that his birthday was FINALLY here! He almost didn't know how to act. We played outside then tonight we had pizza and rented Star Wars /Clone Wars and all is right in the world! Oh, they are so easy when they are 5! (Trust me, I have a 12 yr old who's life is oh so complicated)
Those of you who know Ashton probably already know my favorite 5 things about him
1. THOSE BIG BROWN EYES- ad yes, he uses them to get away with murder -and he does!
2. He is so compassionate! He is always worried about his sister in particular! Sooo cute!
3. He has a happy disposition. We need more of that in the world.
4. He sleeps in:)
5.He truly thinks he can do ANYTHING! THAT is a trait everyone should have!
I love you Ashy!!!!

Mia the opportunist

2009-03-19T08:56:00.000-07:00

We all know Mia makes the most of life on any given day:) That being said, yesterday was no different as she battled a very high fever. I don't know what's wrong with her, I'll see where this goes but during her darkest hour yesterday I tucked her in bed and told her I was going to the store to get her some medicine( the Tylenol alone wasn't cutting it). So she said in a low mumble....... MOM....... will you also get me some shoes? I said shoes? Yes, she replied, I want pink sparkly shoes. She saw an opportunity and she took it! NO, I didn't come home with pink shoes but I did manage to find some motrin and her fever went down. There's one thing I do know, Mia can "work it" when she see's opportunity. Good thing I'm clued in to her um "talent"........

Tiny, tinier and tiniest

2009-03-11T10:33:00.000-07:00

This morning my kids were sure out great white pyranese was hungry so they all volunteered to go out and give him their leftover toast! I had forgotten how tiny my kids are compared to tthe dog ( who's name is ironically "Tiny") I think he outweighs Ashton, Mia dn Jonah combined! The funny thing is that Tiny thinks he's one of the kids so he rolls around at their feet trying to start up a game. Too cute! Jonah still wants to saddle him up and go for a ride!

ASHTON'S FUNNY OF THE DAY

2009-03-06T21:37:00.000-08:00

Ashton's funny tonight was too good not to post! He is quite anxious for his birthday which isn't until the 19th ( march) He has been trying desperately to move it up a bit. Not hi sparty but his actual birthday. I have failed to get through to him that you don't just move your birthday! Well tonight as I was tucking him in he told me " Mommy, my birthday is in 5 minutes okay...... I SAW IT !!!!"

Seriously....... you can't make this stuff up!

By the way

2009-03-05T21:02:00.000-08:00

I have decided to do something. I have decided that I am going to kill two birds with one stone....... so to speak .....don't call PETA! I am constantly beating myself up for not writing all those funny things down that the kids say, or the every day joys of our life as a big family, or the not so joyous days...... Anyway, I have decided to print my blog as my yearly Mallory scrapbook. Don't worry, I won't print your comments, just my posts. So if eevery now and again, I post a "funny " from one of the kids, just know it'sbecause I know I won't remember all the cute things they say in 10 minutes, let alone 10 years from now. So enjoy! By the way, Jonah picked this picture to post because he thinks his Aunt Mandy is " so pretty":)

OK the funniest thing Jonah said today was that now his birthday is officially over ( it was 2 days ago) he is telling me " Mom, I am ALMOST 8"!! Nothing like planning ahead right?

Happy Birthday Jonah

2009-03-04T07:22:00.000-08:00

Jonah wanted to show off his photography so here goes. A mix of his photo session with his sister( which he does quite often) and some birthday pictures! Maybe someday Jonah's passion for picture taking will pay off! He sure loves to practice! He randomly poses his sibs for "photo shoots".Soooo cute!

Last Sunday night we celebrated Jonah's lucky 7th birthday! I can't believe he is 7! He is tiny still but is growing leaps and bounds in other ways. He hugs a little tighter, smiles a LOT more, talks up a storm and amazes us every day. He is such a brave little boy and we are so proud of him. Here are pictures of his big day and 7 things I love about Jonah!
1. Jonah works very hard in school and I love how he counts.......
"wung, two, free, four.... sooooooo cute
2. He says that now he is 7 he can drive himself to town to get a movie! He says because he's "wung hundred tall"
3. He loves loves to help me clean. I think he's better at it than I am!( not hard):(
4. He has a very sensitive heart- his tender heart is something I so love about him.
5. He is scary smart! He'll have me stumped by 4th grade I am sure. In the last 8 months he has learned english, learned to write the alphabet and learned to read! He didn't know a lick of english last July when we went to China to pick him up! His teachers LOVE him!
6. He loves to climb on my lap and be my "baby". We roll play this alot and it breaks my heart I couldn't be his mom from the beginning. Who snuggled with my baby Jonah when he was tired, cold,or hungry? I am grateful to everyone who helped him along his journey and am grateful he is finally here in his forever family.
7. Jonah is a great photographer! He loves to sneak my camera and pose his siblings and make art out of ordinary things! I will post some of his "work" below!

A little shopping never hurt anyone

2009-02-26T18:40:00.000-08:00

Here is a darling outfit I found for Miss Sela. When she gets placed with her family, I am going to mail it to them!!!! Nothing like shopping to celebrate a new family!( Besides, Child's World was having a great sale:)) I thought the pastel blue was beautiful and the brown will match her big brown eyes! I can't wait until she is getting out the pots and pans from her mommy's kitchen in this warm fuzzy outfit! I can't wait until her heart will be healed and she has her whole life ahead of her with endless possibilities! Adoption is full of simple miracles! I love the opportunity I have had to witness it .Scroll down to the very bottom of this blog and watch the video by Steven Curtis Chapman. It says it perfectly! Three cheers for Miss Sela! The world is yours beautiful!

Sela is coming home

2009-02-26T07:26:00.000-08:00

Little Miss Sela who I talked about in my last post( now gone) is not only getting a home but there are currently 3 families fighting over her! In a couple weeks she will be placed. This is such good news! She will fill a home with laughter, love and get spoiled rotten! PHEW! Now maybe I'll be able to sleep at night! She had the face of angel- not the kind you soon forget!Take good care Miss Sela! You have touched our hearts from the other side of the world! I look forward to following her journey home!

Mia speaks

2009-02-18T18:05:00.000-08:00

Mia sat on my lap tonight and was looking at our family blog. She saw this picture and got very quiet. She was barely 2 when this pic was taken in China just a few days after getting her. She stared at it asnd said Mom,,, I didn't want to be alone!
Wow. Now, I don't know if she could possibly remember details of China but maybe she remembers how she felt? This Mom is in tears and so grateful she will NEVER be alone. Believe me in a family this size, it's pretty much impossible!
Looking at this picture, she also yelled out proudly, " that's my Daddy".
Thanks Honey for taking this leap of faith with me. It has been a wild , wonderful ride!
I added a picture of her now. She has grown into such a spunky but caring and kind little girl. She is always wrapping her arms around me and saying I love you Mom. She loves life and isn't afraid of anything! She starts Kindergarten in August. Heaven help Dworshack Elementary!

Our Christmas in California

2009-02-12T06:55:00.000-08:00

I finally got some pictures of Christmas to show you! It was wonderful and full of firsts for our family. It was our first Christmas with 5 kids! Hectic but sooo fun! It was so fun to watch them be so excited about what the other one was getting. They got to spend almost every day of the 2 week vacation with Grandpa Rick! They all love him so much ! We camped at the Beach in our 5th wheel. THAT was a first but NOT a last! WE loved it and plan on making it a tradition! What a blast it was to wake up to beautiful waves and dolphins instead of snow and ice!!!! This California girl was in HEAVEN!!! It was Jonah's first Christmas! He got right into it! He tried to grasp the whole meaning of Christmas as we explained it to him with a Nativity. We talked about Jesus ( who he insisted is NOT a baby). Then he helped us name all the people in the nativity set. When we got to the wise men, of course Grandpa Rick was one of them! I will post a picture of Jonah opening his first Christmas gift! It was an emotional moment for me. I am just so glad he's home with his forever family and not in an orphanage with no heat!!! It was our first trip to Disnayland since we adopted Mia, so neither MIa or Jonah had been . That was so fun! Of course Grandpa Rick went and Aunt Paige and Emily and Aunt Mandy and Aunt Kate...! We loved hanging around with them all . That was half the fun! My kids love all their Aunts and they still ask when we can go back and see them! We got to go see Heather, my cousin, who is bravely fighting Breast Cancer. She still had such a sense of humor and kindness despite what she is going through. I am happy to report she has not lost that contagious giggle she has! What a treasure she is. Her kids are darling and they all had fun playing Mc Donalds. If you have been to Aunt Coy's house you know what I am talking about:) It was wonderful to laugh at and with Uncle Fred! Heehee....... And Aunt Coy is still as much of a busy, service queen as she has ever been . All the Leudtke's have had a rough year as they watched Heather's cancer return. It hasn't been easy but you can see and feel all the love that family has. OK>>>
I guess the bottom line of our trip was FAMILY . Every day was filled with family. That is all that matters and my kids saw that. We are all connected and love eachother so much no matter how far away we reside. We are so grateful for this and are so glad that families are forever!

Have you seen my Chinese?

2009-02-01T10:01:00.000-08:00
Jonah has lost his Chinese! I am sooooo sad!!! Here are some pictures of some of our adventures in China. The country and the people will always be dear to our hearts. Make sure to read the post below all the pictures! I am a little computer disadvantaged so the post should have shown up first, but here goes! Here's to our small small world!!

Last week Jonah's best friend finally got home to the states with his family. Their trip to China was wonderful and we were anxiously awaiting the reunion of these two little guys who have been together their whole lives with exception to these last 6 months . Jin Pei's family arrived home on a Thursday morning and by Thursday night we could not stand it, we got on the phone and were all so excited about hearing them talk, laugh and catch up! Well, the moment came and Jonah had LOST ALL OF HIS CHINESE LANGUAGE!!!!! Poor Jin Pei, he smiled ear to ear because he knew it was his friend, but they could not talk with one another because they no longer spoke the same language. As his Mom I was heartbroken. First, for my son who I know had waited for this day for a long time. Second for the fact that it was HIS native tongue.No worries though for these two boys, we are heading up to Oregon for a visit this spring and by then Jin Pei will have enough English to get by and maybe he can jog Jonah's memory with his Chinese. I am just so thrilled that these two will continue to have eachother. Jonah has left his language, and his culture behind ,to some extent, but he gets to keep his best friend! How cool is that?!!** In 6 months, he learned English, which was exciting, but it's like it has replaced his Chinese. I am soooo sad. You see, we have spent a fair amount of time in China through our adoptions, and as we have done this, China has become part of our family. The people there are dear to us, the culture is dear to us.We have made some dear friends there. It is truly part of our family and we love it just as we love our Children who were born there. As I reflected on this ,I thought I'd share with you some pictures of our adventures in this beautiful country. The people are kind, and truly value things like honor, family, truth, virtue,respect, and honesty. As time marches on and the government changes and the culture shifts somewhat , the spirit of respect and kindness still remains. We are ALL children of God and I think deep down, all of us , no matter where we live, know it. We really ARE all brothers and sisiters. So here's to FAMILY!!

Want to help feed a child ..for FREEEEE

2009-01-23T08:08:00.000-08:00
This is baby Rui in China who recovered nicely because of the efforts of Love Without Boundaries. She needed life saving heart surgery and Love WithoutBoundaries was there to make sure she got it! After her hospital stay she was taken to our LWB Heart Home where they take the heart babies to heal in a clean, safe environment complete with nurses and caretakers who really feel that every child counts. Now all she needs to worry about is healing, growing and flirting with the staff who she has wrapped around her tiny little finger!! The link below is a link to a contest where LWB can win 35,000 to continue our work in China for many many more children in need.......... so read on!!! It will cost you NOTHING but 2 minutes of your time:)
http://www.cookiemag.com/magazine/sweeps/smart_cookie_finalists09/entry/long/

As some of you may know, I work on a volunteer basis for a foundation called Love Without Boundaries. They help feed orphans in China ( LOTS of orphanages only have enouph resources to give the babies way watered down formula so they are literally not growing because they are starving) as well as provide funds for life saving surgeries,foster homes, education and lots more. This all started when the non -profit's founder went to China to visit her daughter's home town in China. There , in the room sat a small child dying because there was no money for the surgery she needed to live. Amy went home and raised the funds not only for this child , but for 3 others . This was the origin of Love Without Boundaries. I am a nutrition coordinator for them on a volunteer basis and am well aware of the affects the economy has had on our operations in China. Love without Boundaries is 100 % not for profit. No one takes any kind of wage because that would literally be taking food from the mouths of these beautiful children. YOU can help us secure 35,000 without it costing YOU a penny and here's how.......
Cookie Magazine and Citi are having a "Smart Cookie" contest. The prize is 35,000 to the winner. Amy is a nominee and all it would take is literaaly 2 minutes of your time... that's all! So click on the link and go vote now for Amy Eldredge! Click on the circle next to her picture and story and fill out some information ( like your name ans email) so they can count it as a legit vote, then click submit. There will be other things below it to sign up for but it is all optional and has nothing to do with your vote.

So take a minute and help us continue our efforts in China. They are all God's children and deserve to have full tummies and a brighter future.
After you voted , go check out the LWB web site at http://www.lovewithoutboundaries.com/ to check out all our happenings! It truly IS inspiring!

Attitude....... wev'e got PLENTY

2009-01-22T17:56:00.000-08:00

The other night I was a little concerned that the kids were acting a little too whiny lately, so I sat down with the three littles ( Jonah ,Ashton, and Mia) and told them that they really needed to STOP whining and ask for things in a "big boy/girl" voice because this whining is hurting my ears. Ashton looked up at me and said with an honest ,straight face " I'm not whining mommy, I'm just sassing"!! !!Heaven help us!

....... no Ashy,we can't ALL be Chinese.....

2009-01-12T19:51:00.000-08:00
We all have those "Aha" moments in our lives when we come to some kind of realization, either of a deep, serious nature or of something that may have been obvious to everyone else on the planet but you. Well, my sweet little twins ( otherwise known as Diablo and Diabla) just noticed that they are somewhat different in appearance. We knew this day would come eventually. Ashton has now told me he wants to be Chinese . I asked him why......... He promptly told me "because my sister is be-oo-tiful Mom". I quickly reminded him that he is beautiful too and that we are all one. We are all God's children and to being together is all that matters. He just shrugged his shoulders and kept playing. Then I started laughing hysterically when it hit me that he has been squinting in all the pictures I have been taking recently.......... he was trying to look CHINESE!!!!! The rest of the day he spent asking people in public places, " did you know my sister is Chinese? This was ALMOST as funny to me as the day Jack asked me if he was DEAF!!!
Mia is pretty over the moon about herself so no issues there ,but I thank heaven on a daily basis that these two have eachother. I grew up with a wonderful twin brother. There was always someone to watch my back and I was never alone, ever. I could never imagine what life would have been like growing up without Matt and I am so glad Mia and Ashton will have the experiences similar to mine . Maybe Ashton needed Mia because he's deaf. Maybe Mia needed Ashton to keep her safe and grounded. I do know that Ashton would not be Ashton without Mia and Mia would not be Mia without Ashton.
While twins are crazy hard it has been sooooooooooo worth the uphill days and the sleepless nights. When they have been apart for a couple hours ( they go to different preschools) they run to eachother and embrace like a Hallmark commercial. Hilarious! So............ if you ever hear me complain, smack me ,because I am the luckiest Mom on the planet. I totally am!!
Bye for now

I have a new favorite quote

2008-12-09T09:51:00.000-08:00
I have a new favorite quote! I found it off a friend's blog and HAD to share it! We all have DREAMS or those things we always wanted to accomplish or experience. We may push them aside for various reasons, like we may think we don't have the time, money or support. Chances are we are cheating ourselves out of our best life!!! This is why I loved this quote!!

"So many of our dreams at first seem impossible,then they seem improbable,and then, when we summon the will, they become inevitable."
Christopher Reeve

WHAT'S YOUR DREAM???????????

We spotted the BIG MAN

2008-12-06T16:10:00.000-08:00

Yes, she really IS wearing her crown for Santa.......can you
say DIVA??????????????????

Jonah: So my brother says if I sit on your lap you'll give me candy?

Yes, that's right! We found the big guy himself hanging out at our local Festival of Trees! I couldn't help but snap a couple pictures as this is the "three musketeers'" first Santa sighting since they are all three together now! Everything this year is "through new eyes"! WHAT we did without Jonah ?I don't know!!! Those three have the BEST conversations amongst themselves! Their take on the season's festivities thus far is hilarious! Jonah is new at this , but no worries, Mia is there to explain it all!!!!! Mia says Santa lives in Alaska, Ashton says he lives at Grandpa's and Jonah is utterly confused! One thing we have been making sure he gets the story on is the true reason for Christmas. He seems to really understand, as much as can be expected and it is so sweet when he sees a Nativity scene. He names off Mary , Joseph and baby Jesus and then he names off the three wise men. Evidently, Grandpa Rick is one of them! Wow! Dad, I knew you were old but...... you really have been around for a while!!:)

Thanksgiving on the farm

2008-11-30T18:07:00.000-08:00

This is a shot of the Mallory boys working off dinner!!

We had a wonderful Thanksgiving at the Mallory house. Kai woke up and decided to put together a hay ride for the little ones . As you can see it was a HUGE hit! OK, so it wasn't the traditional horse and buggy but here on the sod farm you get what you get! SO,,,, one four wheeler, some stolen hay- ok "borrowed" (from the farmer next to us) and the trailer typcally called the "garbage trailer" transformed magically into a GREAT new tradition! We even had weather in the 50's and sunshine to top off the day! I don't know who had more fun, the kids being towed around or the drivers! MOM, DAd, and Kai took turns doing the honors!

We finished off the day with LOTS of food at dinner at grandma Mallory's house! We live only a few houses down and are on the farm just on a country gravel road so of course we travelled in style......... you guessed it... a hay ride all the way to grandma's house!!!!!! Here are some pictures of the day!!

A friend in need

2008-11-26T11:21:00.000-08:00
Today , I am thinking about my dear friend Lana and her daughter Emma. Emma is 8 and a wonderful, beautiful girl. She always has a smile and is loved by everyone. In fact, Jack wants to marry her! Last weekend, Emma was rushed down to Salt Lake to Primary Children's Hospital and was diagnosed with Leukemia. We are devastated that she has to endure this. We are sad for her little body that will have to endure Chemo for 2 and 1/2 years and all that that brings. We are sad for Emma's family who will watch it all every day. But I am also SO grateful to know that she is at an excellent hopspital in the very best care. I am grateful she has one of the best Oncologist in the west taking care of her!!! I am grateful she has the kind of Leukemia that is most common and very curable.MOSTLY, MOSTLY , MOSTLY I am grateful for our Savior who loves Emma even more than we do(hard to imagine I know) and will see her through this trial . I believe she will have help from the other side that only children can have. So today, I am profoundly grateful for my Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ who know the beginning from the end and are a prayer away always and always.
I don't know why I am sharing this but when Jack was diagnosed as being profoundly deaf and we were waiting to hear back if his hearing nerve was fit for an implant (his only chance at hearing the world... ever) I was praying so hard one morning. I was BEGGING the Lord to PLEASE PLEASE let my little boy hear. I was telling the Lord how much I loved this little boy. I would do ANYTHING he wanted me to do, just let Jack hear . I was at a low I hadn't been ever except at the passing of my mom. I think though at that moment, I was humbled enough to really "listen" to the spirit. I heard in my heart and my mind the words " I know, I love him too". At that moment, I knew He heard my pleadings in prayer and told me what I already knew. The Savior and Heavenly Father loved him more that I can even imaginge. They loved him even more than I, his mother does. I also got the DISTINCT IMPRESSION that "they had it covered" so to speak. They knew him , they knew what he needed and they were "on it". So, THATS what I am grateful for this Thanksgiving. We have no idea the blessings in store for Emma because HE LOVES HER TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love you Lana and Emma.

I have been tagged

2008-10-19T18:27:00.000-07:00
I have bben tagged by my friend Amy who brought home the beautiful Presley Clair this year from China. I am supposed to list 7 obscure facts about me so here goes. I am pretty open and it seems I wear my heart on my sleeve, so I don't know if anything will be a big shocker but I'll give it a try.
1. I am obsessed with airplanes. I LOVE to fly. When I was a little girl my dad used to take me to the base of the international runway at LAX and we would watch the huge jumbo jets make their landing. It felt like we could touch the belly of those planes as we watched from the hood of our car. Good times:)

2. I am a closet writer. I love to write poetry when no one is looking. I love to read quotes that can change me/you in some way for good.

3. I am pretty sure I have "adult ADHD" I always have my mind going in 17 directions. No wonder I never get anything done!! Maybe I need medication!! Ha Ha

4. I'll try anything once. I want to live my life having tried anything once! There is such a big world out there. You don't have to follow the crowd to be happy.......... Heck, I even pulled my child out of school one day 4 years ago and homeschooled him ever since-( except for one year) CRAZY huh? It turned out to be a wonderful experience I never thought I'd do. This taught me that you should always keep an open mind or you might lose out on life's greatest adventures!

5. I too want to LIVE in China someday and help children in orphanages.

6. I have a nasty family history of breast cancer in my family so at the age of 30 I went in for a "new pair". I'll just leave it at that. Let's just say now my chances of getting BC are less than yours!!:)

7. When I was a kid, I thought Jesus lived in the moon!:)- Now I still know he is always near.:)

Mallory Family Temple Day

2008-10-14T16:44:00.000-07:00

Last Friday evening we were able to take Jonah to the Twin Falls LDS Temple . I took lots of pictures before we left because A. I wanted to record this special day for our family.

B. All 5 of my children had clean faces all at once!!

C. All 5 of my kids had a clean face!!

D. B and C !!!!!!!!!

Joking aside , isn't that just a cute bunch of kids? Yep, I am tipping the scale of"sanity" and my house is often loud and very busy but it is MINE (ours) and I couldn't imagine my life without any of these amazing little people we are raising. We have lots of ups and downs, but life is never dull and it's never been sweeter. Jarrod and I are slowly getting used to parenting FIVE KIDS. He has lost hope of a quiet room in the house (until bedtime) but we try really hard to take advantage of that time effectively even if it's just chatting as we fold the last bit of laundry or lay there exhausted watching the news together. Patience is being learned and memories are being made daily. At the end of the day, no matter how crazy it's been ,we know that FAMILY IS EVERYTHING!!!!! Our day at the temple will be forever etched in my heart. In our religion, in case you aren't familiar with the LDS practices, the Temple is a very special place to us. When a child is adopted there is a beautiful ceremony "sealing" the adopted child to our forever family. It was a beautiful evening for our family , one which we will never forget. Jonah knits this family in a way I could have never imagined. He balances out the mix of personalities we have among our kids and just "fits". Only a loving Heavenly Father could give such a rich blessing. My heart will forever ache for the first 5 years of his life when his family had not found him yet, but somehow it's all ok. Somehow , it has been as it should be and would not have worked any other way. I hope I am making sense. There is a quote I sent out in Mia's adoption announce ment years ago and it has meant so much to me lately as I look at my perfectly mixed little family. I will share it with you now........................

" We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life. But those who make their journey home across time and miles, growing withing the hearts of those who wait to love them, are carried on the wings of destiny and placed among us by God's very own hands". by Kristi Larsen

Welcome home Jonah ! Welcome home!

Our day trip to Lake Cleveland

2008-09-16T19:06:00.000-07:00

Two weeks ago we had a real treat!! By now you all know we have become friends with the family who is in the process of adopting Jonah's very best friend in China. His name is Jin Pei and he will be coming home to beautiful Astoria, Oregon to a wonderful family. They came for a visit a couple weeks ago and we took a little jaunt to Lake Cleveland. I will post better pictures of the Moyer family when I get them ,but for now, here is a brief synopsis of our fun!! It was a beautiful Saturday afternoon and the weather was nice. The company was great . The Moyers have two daughters who are so darling. They too are adopted from China. They are about Ashton and Mia's age so they all had fun getting to know one another! While we were there ,Mia got hit by a rather large rock in the back of the head ..........hmmmmmm Ashton was supposedly aiming for the lake......... and got a nice little gash . Charley, Jin Pei's Daddy , came to the rescue and we got the bleeding stopped and Mia got to sport a nice " Pocahontas" bandage around her head for the remainder of the trip. After just a few tears, she went right on hiking and having fun around the Lake. We can't wait until they get Jin Pei home so our boys can be reunited and pick up where they left off!
I know it is no accident we live in neighboring states and have become "family" with the Moyers! I will keep you posted on their journey to bring him home. He is ,after all ,a part of the family! He's a part of Jonah's life in Jinhua ,China that he will get to keep!! That ,in itself , is amazing. Someone upstairs has guided Jonah's way home at every step along the way ,and this is just one more piece of the puzzle He has blessed us with.

Should I be WORRIED?

2008-09-14T16:47:00.000-07:00

OK, I understand that Sunday afternoons can get a little boring for the youngers at our house and almost anything can count as entertainment but do I worry ??

Introducing.............The Food Coach

2008-09-10T16:42:00.000-07:00

As many of you know adoption is not cheap . In the interest of doing my part to defray the recently incurred expenses as we brought our son Jonah home, I have started a business. The name of the business is "The Food Coach". I will now be for hire, if you will, for personal weight loss counseling. The goal in my practice is wellness, not necessarily weight loss in the sense of "getting skinny" per se' . I have always had a passion for wellness as a whole and believe life should be enjoyed, savored, and rewarding no matter your endeavor. Achieving a healthy state , no matter the weight on the scale, is the goal. Whether you have heart disease, diabetes, chronic illness, need more energy, or would simply like to shed some pounds to look and feel your best, I can help in a personal, fun, practical, and results driven way. I have a degree from the Dept. of Health and Nutrition Sciences at ISU and in my department I had a 3.96 GPA. For years , well, as long as I can remember , I have had a love for food and it's relationship to our health and well being. So many diseases we suffer from in our country today are preventable!!! Yes, preventable!! "Harvard Public Health" showed recently in research that over 60 % of Americans suffered from "diet related" illness. Since health is the #1 predictor of happiness why shouldn't we treat ourselves to a happier , healthier life by giving our body the best possible fuel? Food is our friend, food is our comfort, it is our fuel, and it's one part of your life that you cannot afford to neglect.

I will offer such services as assessments ( body fat, fisceral body fat,metabolic rate, and more), setting goals that YOU are comfortable with, menu planning, clearing your pantry, shopping with you (the grocery store is the best place to educate yourself!!) and even cooking in your home. Lifestyle changes are sometimes hard to make so don't do it alone. I offer a discounted rate for " buddies". So grab some support, a sister or your best friend or spouse, and watch the pounds melt away, your metabolism increase, your energy skyrocket!!!

My rates are affordable ( WAY cheaper than the local gym even) and you get personal, tailored attention and a plan that is just right for YOU. So "just do it". You are worth it!!

Look at her now

2008-08-04T20:10:00.000-07:00

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I was having just one of those days today and needed some time alone, so I sat down at my computer and started to rummage through my family pictures-the ones of the kids that always , always bring a smile to my face. Well, sure enouph as I stared at this picture of Mia I teared up. She came to us a little over two years ago. She was 22 months old and was our first adoption and our first girl. All of us were uneasy but so smitten by this little ball of fire. We have all been sucked in by her chortle of a laugh and have been charmed by her cheesy grin. She is bossy, girly and tough. She rules her brothers with the whip of her pink feather boa and loves every minute of it. She has welcomed Jonah with open arms as she does everyone who walks in the door. She was Phoebe on list 20 now she is Mia Mallory, a forever member of our family. Ups, downs and in betweens, she is why we had the desire to adopt again and go out on a limb. She has changed us all for the better and we hold on to her for dear life.

Enjoy the pictures!

Fear? What's that?

2008-08-04T13:53:00.000-07:00

I found this and loved it. It impresses upon me that being the Mom to 5 crazy kids is not for whimps!!

Jonah and Jin Pei at Jinhua

2008-07-31T14:33:00.000-07:00

This was taken with a disposable camera I sent in March for his birthday. Of course he is hanging out with Jin Pei. I have lots of others but most are just Jonah in front of various spots around the orphanage. They looked like those two "ruled the school". Jonah picked some goldfish out for Jin Pei today at the store. So cute.

Well, we are headed out on his first camping trip. We have been packing the trailor for 2 days now with lots of food and fun snacks. We have baked cookies and done all kinds of things to prepare. This morning in very broken english Jonah told me " I like camping" . I thought it was great he loves it and we aren't even out of the driveway yet!

Want some eggs with that HAM?

2008-07-26T15:07:00.001-07:00

Well it has been 9 days home and Jonah is doing so well. He has brief periods of grief for the life and people he has grown up with. He is so brave and is taking all this change in stride. Here is an example of our son and his coping skills! He seems to love his new family and he is always hamming it up for us! I foresee a class clown in our future! I am so exhausted still as we have had a busy week with our local International Dance Festival. It was lovely housing part of the China team. We feel we got to enjoy an extended stay in China. Our emotions are on the surface as we are so grateful for the son we have home and the beautiful culture he has brought home with him.

MY TWINS

2008-07-18T09:55:00.000-07:00
While we were in China, my good friend Sarah , who is a fantastic photographer, was watching my kids one day and decided to do a photo shoot. Here is just one of the darling pictures she took. She truly captured their relationship. They are best friends and Mia takes care of Ashton like a mother hen. Ashton is hearing impaired and she ALWAYS makes sure he hears everything- if he doesn't she will grab his face and repeat what he needs to hear. I did not teach her this- she just knows his needs and is always there like a sister should be. I shutter to think what life would be like without her, without him. Family is everything!!!!!!!!!!!!

Farewell

2008-07-15T07:03:00.000-07:00
Well, the day is here where we say good bye to our CHI "family friends". It has been so wonderful watching these families form. What an honor!! I just love all the children and they will have a special place in my heart. We are so excited to come home to the states to be with our family and watch Jonah as he settles in to his new life. He is more loving every day and starting to show it in the cutest ways. He still has to be in the right mood to show affection but when it comes, you can see he really means it. We went shopping on the street today and he bought trinkets for Jin Pei and Ashton, Mia and for Jin Ming who he calls Ming Ming. So sweet. He talks about Jin Pei all the time . OH- I almost forgot! HE LOVES KETCHUP!!! He even tried to drink it after all his fries were gone! He loves bacon too. Yep....... he's a Mallory boy. He doesn't really like veggies which surprised me, being from the region he was in, but we will work on that when we get home! Speaking of home, We are flying out early tomorrow so I need to go to bed! I can't wait to have by babies at home in my arms again! Idaho here we come!!!

Jonah is in the house

2008-07-13T07:03:00.000-07:00
Jonah is slowly getting more comfortable with his new family. He is still really quiet and a little weird around lots of people and in any public situation. Then when we are back together , just us as a family, he comes out of his shell and is quite a ham. He said I love you to me today after I told him I love you. He was only parroting me but it was still great! He is testing us with some interesting behavior but nothing that wasn't expected. He will figure out soon that we love him no matter what and will be comfortable with his new boundaries. I am already seeing progress. We are super busy here so I will make this short. 3 more days and we will be HOME!!!
Mare

2008-07-12T06:48:00.000-07:00
Hey all !! We are in Guangzhou!! After quite a delay due to weather (rain, lightning and wind) in the Hangzhou airport, we finally took off to Guangzhou. We love Guangzhou and feel like it's a little piece of home here. Hangzhou was absolutely gorgeous and I definitely left my heart in Jin hua, but it is good to be here with the other families from CHI who have been waiting for their kiddos like we have. To see these new family bonds taking shape is exhilirating!! We had lunch at Lucy's and the kids thought they had died and gone to heaven. After 10 days of chinese food (ok... I will admit we did have Mc Donalds a few meals) we loved the American fare at Lucy's. They have things like burgers, fries, quesadillas, BLT's and even apple pie!! Jonah had his physical today for his Visa and he was so brave! They did some poking and prodding but he was a champ. He is a real trooper. We then played in a local park for a while where I fell -which was evidently GREAT entertainment for Jonah- He laughed until he was in tears. I guess I'd do anything for a smile where Jonah is concerned , but that is not what I had on my list. No worries, I am fine and Jonah keeps asking me to do it again! I won't have pictures tonight- sorry!!!! My camera isn't charged enough to transfer the pics to the laptop so I will do it in the AM. Good night from China y'all! Thanks for your love and prayers! We love you!
Marianne

Happy Late Birthday, Marianne!

2008-07-11T00:29:00.000-07:00

Definitely worth the wait, though, huh?????
Love,
Cynthia

Go read this

2008-07-09T23:06:00.000-07:00

Make sure you scroll down all the way down to "older posts" and click on it. It will tell in detail more about our orphanage visit.

Where Jonah slept

2008-07-09T22:58:00.000-07:00
This is Jin Pei's bed with the blanket from his momma on it and Jonah's is to the left of it. We did get back the blankets I sent over the last few months, including the one I made and sent via US Mail!! It was very well used so he did sleep with it!

Jin Ya

2008-07-09T22:50:00.000-07:00

This is another one of Jin Ya. I tell of her in the long post below these pictures. Her parents died when she was young, but she does remember them so China considers her unadoptable because she has memories of her parents. I am on a mission to convince them otherwise.

Mavery on the run

2008-07-09T22:41:00.000-07:00
This is Mavery, the spunky girl who did not want her photo taken. She too was woken up from her nap for our arrival and she wasn't having it- the photo shoot I wanted that is. She warmed up a little with a sucker from Jonah. Shannon, you have your work cut out for you! This girl knows what she wants!

Emma

2008-07-09T22:25:00.000-07:00
Here is Emma, What a beauty she is and sweet too! She loved the little purple purse with legos we brought her. With those big eyes, I have a feeling she'll get anything she wants once she's home!!

Jin Pei and his backpack from Mom and Dad

2008-07-09T22:15:00.000-07:00

Thanks for the cool stuff MOM!!!

" You woke me up for THIS?"

2008-07-09T21:46:00.000-07:00

This is Peggy's Benjamin. He is a doll. He was woken up from his nap for our arrival and wan't real thrilled.

2008-07-09T21:33:00.000-07:00

Her name is Jin Ya

2008-07-09T21:26:00.000-07:00

OH MY HEART

2008-07-09T20:48:00.000-07:00
Hello Everyone! We are on day 3 of having Jonah and he is so fun. He is opening up more everyday. I am finding that he gets very quiet around lots of people. He just freezes. I feel sad for him , but let me tell you, once it is just us back at our hotel the real Jonah emerges again. He sings, serves us water- he takes the glasses from the mini bar and pours each of us a glass, passes them out with pride and never drinks one himself. Jarrod says this is very traditional. He is playing up a storm with his brothers and is definitely all boy. He will fit right in! Last night he did the cutest thing. You see, every night he prepares his bed for bedtime with this little ritual of foling down his blankets perfectly and having his stuffed animals in place-all lined up and his pillow "fluffed" and put back in the perfect spot. Well, last night he did his little ritual and then looked over at my bed. He looked at me with those eyes as if to ask if he could just sleep with his Mama...... of course I said yes and he snuggled right in with a huge grin on his face. I think he has decided he likes having a mama. It boggles my mind how much he is just experiencing now for the first time. He waited 6 years to crawl in bed with Mom and Dad ? How many times in the last 6 years did he go to sleep lonely? I got to see his bed and it had a wooden bottom-much like a child bed but without a mattress, just a slab of wood with a bamboo mat on it. Next to his bed was Jin Pei's bed. I am so grateful they have had eachother. I am glad Jin Pei knows he will be home soon and can see Jonah. I knew who alot of the kids were at the orphanage because their files were sent to my agecy also and I keep in touch with all their mamas. They are no longer "pictures"of cute little kids, they are real ,beautiful human beings , orphans,who just lit up when they saw us. The are loved at the orphanage-it is apparent. However, you can see in their eyes that they wanted to be the one who got to go "Home" with their family. They were all beautiful, precious little people with little personalities of their own, a story of their own, and a purpose on this Earth. My heart broke as I had to leave. I pray for all my new little friends every day. I know some will get homes, some will not, but one thing is for sure, it changes you. Going there changes you FOREVER. Believe me when I say my wheels have been turning non stop since we left. There has to be a way to do more for these kids. One in particular, I will try to post her photo here is a beautiful girl 13 years old who is there because her parents died. She remembers them so for this reason, no one in China would want her and the Government assumed all these years that no one in America would want her either-just because she remembers her parents. She is 13- she is beautiful, friendly, very smart and kind, She should be shopping at the mall and crushing on boys for heaven's sake. I asked the orphanage director if there was a way I could convince the powers that be that there would be families out there in America who would feel as I do and they said YES!!! They said if I could get an agency to request her file, they would make sure her application was sent. They said it is in my hands because they have so many rules over them , but if the CCAA knew a family /families wanted her she would have a good chance of going up for adoption to that family. Of course my first thought was,"I will be back in 6 months" but I think my husband is out of money!! - I spent time with her and she is so lovely. I gave her a bracelet my MIL made for a gift and she lit up. I will do everything in my power to get her a home -(if it can't be mine). I hate to think of her future -She just needs a Mom and Dad to guide her and love her-she had that once and for unknown reasons, her family was taken from her life. -UHG!!

Well, I'd better go- The boys are doing great and so are we. I miss my babies at home terribly but we only have 6 days left! I love all of you and will post more tonight!